On My 40th Wedding Anniversary, I Saw How Much Race In America Has Changed

Sunday, July 23, 2017, was Mary and my 40th wedding anniversary. We celebrated at our favorite sushi restaurant. I enjoyed sashimi (raw fish without rice). Over 40 years ago, I brought this outspoken hippie blonde home to meet my black parents. Dad was a Methodist minister. I instructed Mary not to speak, confident she would say something to offend them.

Entering my parent’s home, Mary asked what is that horrible smell? I said that is dinner. Mom was cooking my favorite hog maws and chitterlings.

Dad was the pastor of our all black community’s Methodist Church. His eldest son dating a white girl was embarrassing.

Upon meeting me, Mary’s grandma said, “Lloyd is nice, But couldn’t you have found a nice white boy to marry?” As fate would have it, Mary’s grandma later succumbed to Alzheimer’s disease. The only family member she recognized was me. Excited, she would yell, “LLOYD” and give me a hug.

God really did right by me, gifting me with Mary; my greatest fan. I can honestly say I would not be who I am today had I married anyone else. I wrote and recorded a song to Mary many moons ago titled, “When I Look In Your Eyes.” The lyrics of the song are truer today than when I wrote them 30 years ago.

My parents were married for 45 years before mom passed away. I asked my now 89 year old dad how to make a marriage last. Dad said there always has to be one of you thinking correctly and praying. Dad said sometimes it was him and other times it was my mom.

Mary has always been super supportive of my endeavors; acting, my paintings, music career, writing and etc. Forty years ago, Natalie Reed, an extremely bright, beautiful and classy lady driving a pink Cadillac showed up at our home to present Mary with an opportunity to sell Mary Kay Cosmetics. Mary was hooked, became a beauty consultant and Natalie was her mentor.

The company had a sales contest in which beauty consultants had to make 10 presentations (shows) in a week. Mary entered the contest. I blew the whole thing off as her silly little make-up project.

Mary quickly booked her 10 shows, but women began canceling. Mary desperately re-booked shows. Plus, our car broke down. Still, Mary stayed laser focused on winning the contest. Finally, it dawned on me. This is a really big deal to her. I began doing whatever I could to help.

There were hundreds of beauty consultants and company big wigs at the banquet to announce the winner of the contest. My heart nearly exploded out of my chest when the sales director at the podium said the award for highest sales of the entire freaking region goes to Mary Parker Marcus. With great pride I thought, “Yeah, that’s my wife.”

I learned the importance of giving back to my wonderful supportive wife.

This month, we are relocating from Florida to a tiny town in West Virginia to be closer to our parents. West Virginia is not my favorite choice, but it will make Mary happy. And that is good enough for me.

On the day of my 40th wedding anniversary I received an email from a Leftist named Edward. He gave his full name, but I will not expose him. Edward began his email with “You are an a**. You sir are a vile piece of s***!” Edward then went into a passionate vitriolic rant against me, Trump and Jesus.

Normally, I laugh and delete hateful emails. But for some reason, I felt a bit sorry for Edward and responded to his email. Obviously, he is in pain and out of his mind with rage from consuming fake news regarding conservatism, Trump and Christianity.

I thought, “Why does this guy hate me so much?” In a nutshell, my writings are about spreading the truth to empower people. I tell fellow blacks that they are blessed to be born in the greatest land of opportunity on the planet. I tell them to forget the victim nonsense and simply pursue their dreams.

Over 40 years ago when I met Mary, interracial dating was taboo. We were verbally assaulted by blacks and physically attacked by whites on a hand full of occasions. In a surprise attack in a family restaurant, a white guy smashed a beer bottle over my head and ran out of the restaurant. He was later prosecuted.

Today, interracial couples hardly receive a second glance. Despite the insidious hate-generating lies of Black Lives Matter and fake news media, we have come a long ways baby in regards to race relations. Americans electing Obama for two terms should have ended Leftists’ lie that America will always be a hellhole of racism; scheming 24/7 how to keep blacks down.

Meanwhile, Mary and I enjoyed a fabulous 40th anniversary.

Lloyd Marcus, The Unhyphenated American, is author of:
“Confessions of a Black Conservative: How the Left has shattered the dreams of Martin Luther King, Jr. and Black America.”

15 comments for “On My 40th Wedding Anniversary, I Saw How Much Race In America Has Changed

  1. Suzanne Sapp
    October 12, 2017 at 1:04 pm

    Congratulations to you Sir, and your beautiful Bride!

  2. Martha Bidal
    October 12, 2017 at 1:16 pm

    Congratulations on your 40th Anniversary from a fellow West Virginian!

  3. Alice Beutien
    October 12, 2017 at 1:53 pm

    Florida’s loss, West Virginia’s gain. I will never forget the excitement and inspiration you exuded at all of your performances and I thank you for your dedication and sacrifices you have given in the promotion of Liberty & Freedom. You are a true Patriot and a symbol of American exceptionalism.

  4. October 12, 2017 at 4:03 pm

    OK Lloyd, I read the whole post word for word. I am totally amazed that you would tell your wife to be – to not say a word!!! hahaha… and she still married you. Congratulations for 40 years. Thanks for giving WV a chance.
    Dennis McCutcheon from WV – now a missionary in Guatemala.

  5. Charles
    October 12, 2017 at 6:17 pm

    Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. A simple and straightforward guide that would right so much that is wrong today.
    Happy anniversary. I hope you have dozens more together.

  6. Eric
    October 12, 2017 at 6:48 pm

    Congratulations to both of you on your 40th anniversary. We just celebrated 52 years of a marriage based not only on love and faith in God, but on the commitment to give 100% of ourselves to each other. One of the Jesuit priests who taught us and knew we were engaged, stopped us in the hall of one of the college buildings and said, “Just know that marriage is not a 50-50 proposition, but a 100-100 proposition”. We never forgot these words of wisdom and have tried to live our marriage accordingly. May you celebrate many more anniversaries. That you have persisted when most were against mixed marriages is a tribute to your commitment.

  7. Christine Thiessen
    October 12, 2017 at 9:49 pm


  8. Linda
    October 13, 2017 at 8:21 pm

    Congratulations on your 40th! I hope you both have many more blessed years together.

  9. K Jones
    October 13, 2017 at 11:42 pm

    I stumbled upon your page and found a prince among men! Keep up your efforts my new friend

  10. K Jones
    October 13, 2017 at 11:43 pm

    I stumbled upon your page and found a truly Wise man! Keep up your efforts

  11. KC
    October 16, 2017 at 9:55 pm

    Happy anniversary & congratulations. I don’t see a white wife & a black husband. I see two people that are the epitome of what a long happy God filled marriage is suppose to be. May He bless you with many more years together!

  12. Russ O.
    October 21, 2017 at 10:16 am

    Congratulations on your milestone anniversary! Praise God! You are a wonderful example of the goodness that results from fearing God and not man. Despite the hatefulness of narrow minded ignorance, you chose love and commitment to one another and showed the hateful that their way only divides and a house divided cannot stand! May the Lord open their eyes and convict them of sin and righteousness, saving them from their real enemy, the evil one. I was having a terrible morning, discouraged by all the chaos of this fallen world. Then I followed a link to this and my day instantly brightened up! Thanks so much for your witness. 🙂

  13. Reid M
    October 22, 2017 at 12:31 pm

    If West Virginia doesn’t work out you and your wife are more than welcome in Uxbridge Ontario – always looking for great people like yourselves !

  14. Dave Jasinsky
    November 3, 2017 at 3:28 pm

    Congratulations on your 40th anniversary. Mary is a beautiful woman. The real reason I’m writing is I just want to tell you how much your writing means to me. I tried to read every time I see your name on an article I will read it. I believe you are a gem to all people. Love your writing keep it up.

  15. Cheryl W
    November 22, 2017 at 9:50 am

    Your beautiful story is an inspiration. Thank you for sharing a keep writing your excellent columns.

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